Welcome to my first of many musings for Untouched World, and how my work as a personal stylist has taught me so much beyond the clothes hanging on the rack. From how we interpret what we wear, to what we feel, and how fast this ever-turning world of fashion can hinder our connection to our essence. The resulting overwhelm, potentially leading to a wardrobe of mishaps, and that familiar feeling of “nothing to wear”. Join me as I write my teaching, musings and more to help you navigate your own inner “untouched world” of your personal style as a practise and the learnings of what feels right, are in turn sustainable fashion.
For a long time, fashion has been loud, fast, trend driven, bold statements, pieces designed to be seen before they’re felt.
But right now, from what I see and deal with, I feel that noise is less relevant. There’s a quiet shift happening in how we dress, a gentle sway toward clothing that supports us rather than demands something from us. Our lifestyles, connections and communities can often far outreach our own listening out of fear of “looking wrong” or trying too hard.
The three aspects of style we crave are; Softness, Warmth, and Feeling a self-connection.
How we can interpret this?
If you love a bold statement, you tend to wear an outfit that exudes your boldness, but on days of wanting to connect to your softer side, you will gravitate to fabrics that drape, or nurture you.
This isn’t about minimalism in style, it’s not about reducing style to nothing and having a wardrobe that only consists of “one style” or genre. Lord knows I work so often in wardrobes that tell me how clients become pigeon holed by the safety of not pushing style boundaries.
It’s about creating a wardrobe that feels good in your body, your day, your life. Warm knitwear, coats that invite touch. Soft sweaters in colour palettes that don’t compete and weren’t bought because they were trendy.
I’ve noticed this shift in my own relationship with style too. I’m planning outfits less. Being even more creative in “the moment”. Trusting my instincts more. Getting dressed has become quiet and in that quiet, more confident, because of the sense of “coolness” and calm I carry when I do.
There’s a difference between clothes that look good and clothes that feel right. You wear them often. You wear them easily. This is where your style moves away from laziness, and more into effortless cool, by leaning into practice.
A “warmer” way of dressing
When clothing truly works, it becomes habit to be creative. You don’t save it for “best”. You reach for it because it’s naturally in your routine, in your life.
Warm earthy tones, They don’t shout, but they never disappear. They feel intentional without trying too hard. What’s more, they layer beautifully, harmonising with each other and with the world around you. One of the sexiest and more effortless ways to dress is monochrome.. khaki in fact a personal fave.
When colour, fabric, and silhouette work together, the result feels effortless. Not styled in a way that looks intentional, but intentional in a way that feels lived in.
Style, softened
Softness in clothing doesn’t mean a lack of structure, it means a different kind of structure.
One of the best lessons I’ve learned over time is that structure can come from proportion, not tightness. Oversized doesn’t mean careless. A relaxed silhouette doesn’t have to translate to shapeless. Instead, it can be a quiet, confident composition.
The key is balance.
One relaxed piece needs one hero show of shape, a moment of contrast, a line that defines without restricting.
Structure doesn’t have to come from tightness. Often, it comes from proportion, and learning that your composition is perfect the way it is, but learning them is power, that understanding in the relationship is everything.
Learning to trust
We’ve been taught that style means control, neatness, precision, and perfection otherwise you’ll be thrown into the bin of society, deemed not cool enough to fit in.
Volume can be one of the most sophisticated tools in your wardrobe, when it’s approached with intention. Clients often worry that (in the current way of sizing) wearing oversized makes them look like giants, and yet it can do the opposite when they learn how to do it for their core style and beautiful shape, and a feat of effortlessness.
Let a generous knit fall over a slim cut pant. Soft, warm, textured layers over a simple base. A cozy sweater with a long skirt that sways with each step. This isn’t dressing down, it’s dressing with intention. Worn with heels, flats and accessorising is key to pulling looks together.
True style doesn’t live at the extremes of tight or baggy. It lives in the space where comfort meets refinement.
That’s when clothes stop feeling like armour and start feeling like companions. They move with you. They soften. They become familiar friends in your wardrobe. But in this is also the key to playfulness.
Wearing, not overthinking
One of the most common things I hear is “I love these pieces I just don’t know how to wear them”. But more often than not, the problem isn’t knowledge, it’s trust to play, and considered time. We’ve been taught to overthink style. To look for rules. To wait for permission.
But the most stylish people I know don’t dress by formula. They dress by feel and instinct of how they feel. They repeat outfits, but evolve them each time, they wear things their own way. Style isn’t about constant reinvention, it’s about evolution, curiosity, repetition, and belief to what feels good.
It’s about familiar pieces, those warm knits, the earthy tones, the textures you instinctively reach for on a calm morning, becoming wardrobe companions and puzzle pieces to your overall style.
Style as practice
Style isn’t a checklist. It’s not about having the “right” items or the “perfect” outfit. It’s about learning to wear what already lives in your life. It’s about noticing how a colour looks against your skin without judgement. How fabric behaves as you move, and not just standing still which people do. How comfort and confidence can coexist.
Over time, your dressing becomes quieter not boring, but composed. Considered. A daily practice, turned into habit.
And when we stop dressing to be seen, and start dressing to feel, style stops being something we perform and becomes something we live.
It becomes effortless.
Lou xx
